It’s Saturday. Tomorrow morning is church. You’ve been attending this church for a while now and you’re ready to step out of your comfort zone. You walk up to someone who you haven’t seen before, you prep your most welcoming upbeat voice, take a deep breath, and you ask the question…
“Hi, Are you new here?”
8 out of 10 times they aren’t. Now, what do you say? We’ve all been there. You just tried to welcome someone into your church family that was already part of it. You feel awkward and they feel insulted. After all, as you just learned this is their church home too and you singled them out as being new. Which we can all agree no matter who you are that is just awkward. Right now you need to just write off all those previous awkward encounters right now. I don’t care if you have ever asked that question or been the one that was asked. Just forget any awkwardness left from that encounter and move on. I’ve been in the church my whole life and work in ministry and guess what? I still get asked if I’m new. So let’s make a pack right now. From here on out we don’t ask people if they are new. Instead, let’s try and get to know others in the church not because they are new but because they are part of your church family.
Try and get to know others in the church not because they are new, but because they are part of your church family.
Old, young, middle-aged, etc. we are one body. Now I’m not saying you need to be everyone’s best friends. But you can at least try and learn other people’s names and then take it from there. So this week at church remember our pact. Instead of asking someone if they are new try out one of the options listed below. Comment with your own ideas as well. And after all of this if you still need a reason to start the conversation you have my permission to blame it on your pastor or our pact.
- Hi! I’m not sure we’ve met my name is ______.
- Morning! How’s it going? I’m ____ by the way.
- Hey, so what did you think when Pastor _____ said _____ in the sermon today?
- Hey, I’m trying to get to know more people at our church. What’s your name?
- Morning, mind if I wait with you _____ (to grab coffee/donuts or pick up our kids) by the way my name is ______.